The roots of the problem run deep. When women show confidence and assertiveness, they are often seen as competent but unlikeable, a tradeoff known as the “likability penalty.” Meanwhile, those who conform to traditional expectations of humility and modesty may be socially rewarded, but they are less likely to be recognized or promoted professionally. External dynamics, interruptions, dismissed contributions, or condescending explanations further erode women’s voices. The final frontier of gender equality may not lie in law or policy, but in these subtle, corrosive habits that continue to hold us back.
In neurodivergent circles, I’ve seen it often pointed out that the reason women tend to be late diagnosed more often than men is that women are usually taught to mask and tiptoe around in society regardless. So it isn’t caught as easily. Which very much correlates with everything said in this article.