According to this random website (just one of the first results on Ecosia): “While clowder is the most common collective noun for cats, a group of cats is also called a cluster, litter (kittens of the same mother), destruction (wild cats), or nuisance.”

First time I’ve heard any of those apart from litter, personally. There’s also a pride of lions.

Lol it can definitely make you feel 102 by the end of it. Not my favourite part of a holiday, that’s for sure. Hope you found something good to binge watch at least.

Haha I can believe it. That must’ve been a hell of a long flight. I’m sure you’ll adjust and recuperate soon though.

I’m a little late but I hope you have an awesome time there!

Yeah I saw someone say that they’re a nurse who deals with dementia patients and that people with dementia are basically putty in the hands of anyone with a vibe of kindness or empathy.

Yeah I was just coming to say as well, the biggest issue with this is mods.

And in games like Stardew Valley, the other issue is the game seed. If you keep using the same save, a lot of the same ‘random’ events will occur.

To be cliche, probably the Bethesda style character creation, just because you can tweak so much. That’s probably the best I’ve got because my current laptop is a potato and Skyrim is about the most intensive that it can (barely) handle.

A huge issue I have with it though, is that after all that tweaking and fine tuning of your character, you can’t save or load templates. So sometimes I’ll spend ages creating a character, start the same and play for a bit, then for whatever reason decide to start again an hour later (regrettable choice, a faulty mod etc.), and now I have to create a character all over again. At that point I just choose basics and hit play.

This is an annoyance to me in all games with character creation though. Even something simpler like Stardew Valley, especially if you’re trying to get the colours just right.

If you’re going to give us the ability to create and fine tune personalized characters, let us save and load them, god damnit.

I think it’s because everyone expects Germans to know better. And it’s pretty sad when it looks like the lesson that was learnt wasn’t “subjugation and genocide of a targeted demographic is bad” but instead “criticism of Israel is bad”.

People expect it from magas and religious nutters but not from Germans in 2025.

I dunno, I think she fits in nicely with the rest of the reality TV stars, news readers and podcasters cosplaying as politicians. What were Trump’s actual credentials? Bankrupting casinos and saying “your fired” on the Apprentice?

I don’t really know. Bad.

I say I don’t know because it’s been at least 10 years since I last even tried, and I’ve grown and done a lot of self discovery in the mean time. But I was absolutely hopeless at relationships.

Every ‘relationship’ I’ve had was initiated by the other person. And in most of them I felt pretty clueless and unsure of what to do or how to go about doing it, like I missed the class on how to. We would usually end up as better friends after an awkward couple of weeks or months.

The one or two where I did actually get something like ‘romantic’ feelings and try to play the role, I was pretty much just an awful mix of too intense and emo.

It sounds like I’m talking about a lot of people but honestly it’s hard for me to define a “romantic partner”. It’s always been more like friends that flirted and danced for a while. Or a fling at most. And if it sounds like I was getting a lot of action or something, most of it was doomed before it ever got that far.

And I know this is getting long now but just want to say, if I do start dabbling in being more than friends again, I think I’d like to practise relationship anarchy. For the lack of traditional expectations or rules to follow seeing as I don’t know them anyway.

I don’t think I would be polyamorous though. I’m pretty sure I’m actually somewhere in the realm of both aromantic and ace but (typical for me) I still haven’t got around to actually doing research on the meanings and the variations like demi or grey.

TL;DR - Bad.

Yeah South Africa is unfortunately generally socially conservative. And susceptible to magaland conspiracies. And I hate to sound like I have one issue but very patriarchal, whether you’re Afrikaner or Zulu. So I’d say knee deep in the manosphere shit too, which goes hand in hand with magaland conspiracies anyway.

One example of the gender divide is currently for the month of November, a group called ‘Women for Change’ are running a social media campaign where people are changing their profile pics purple, and are planning a general strike in about a week, to draw attention to the fact that a woman is buried in South Africa every 2.5 hours, and that rape and femicide are a plague in this country. Seriously, from babies to 99 year old women, none are safe.

And so of course, certain men responded to this by starting their own bullshit where they’re changing their profile pictures green. At first I thought it had maybe something to do with farm murders and men trying to play the victim olympics but it’s even scummier and lower than that. They changed their profile pictures green to cry that they’re “ATMs” for women. I dunno, I just think that’s kinda fucking despicable.

In fairness, there are (usually white) conservative women in magaland too. But I’m not going to beat around the bush when I say that you don’t need a magnifying glass to see how lobsided the demographics are in this regard.

I mean, considering that this is a successful meme on two different platforms and that there are multiple comments giving their own examples, I would assume that it’s a behaviour that a lot of people come across, regardless of your personal experience.

We live in a world where people who believe in jewish space lazers and think they’re going to get 5G from vaccines exist, and you find this hard to believe?

And of course, South Africans are having a field day regurgitating neo nazi talking points.

Imagine thinking you’re being ‘replaced’ by 153 people. Almost as ludicrous as believing they’re putting microchips into vaccines, which South Africans are all over too. It’s honestly embarrassing.

Also, I’m starting to think that a large amount of online trolls that spend their days attacking feminist and queer pages on mainstream social media are god damn fkn white South Africans. I’ve already seen people mention that they are some of the worst of the worst on Twitter.

I took it to be another version of this Homelander reaction. Basically a look of disdain and disgust. Spiked with a bit of superiority complex.

This particular image is just doing the rounds now because it’s from a recent Sweeney Todd interview, or whatever her name is.

In neurodivergent circles, I’ve seen it often pointed out that the reason women tend to be late diagnosed more often than men is that women are usually taught to mask and tiptoe around in society regardless. So it isn’t caught as easily. Which very much correlates with everything said in this article.

Depends on a few things, including the viewpoint in question.

And my patience at a particular time because I’m not 18 and just discovering the world anymore and a lot of shit is the same old shit, even if it’s had a ribbon tied around it.

Some things that I’m more or less out of patience with are bigotry, right wing conservative conformists and supremacists, and monotheism. But I’m open to discussing most other things.

I’d be more inclined to ‘meet in the middle’ politically if ‘politics’ were about say how taxes should be spent, and not about who should have more or less human rights than who.

That sounds great, I could do that. There’s no reason you can’t still ‘sleep over’ or even spend the week or practically live together anyway. As long as each person still has their space to retreat to (without anyone getting upset about it) and no one is left feeling trapped in their own life.

Even if you lived in the house, because let’s face it times are tough, at the very least seperate bedrooms are a must.

Pretty much same. At this point I’m not sure if the idea of a relationship even appeals to me anymore. Sharing a bed and cupboard and your general space 24/7 also frightens me a bit at this point.

I think that if I did start dating or whatever again, the idea of relationship anarchy appeals to me these days. The part about keeping expectations and feelings of ownership in check. And respecting that other people are individuals with their own lives.

The future is annoying. Here is a reverse image search result from 8 years ago.