Wow, yes. You worded this beautifully, in a way I couldn’t.

Thank you so much for writting this out. It doesn’t change the internet spaces we navigate, but it does bring some inner relief to know someone else gets it. I don’t have much to add, but thank you.

Edit, you mentioned you being bi and The hypersexualization keeps you or has kept you from being in a relationship with a woman. I feel like it has the same parallels to why in music, I don’t like many female led metal bands. I love all kinds of music, but when it comes to metal I’ve an aversion to female led ones. Why? Because I’ve heard men sexualize them so often. My moneky brain feels it as competition, they are usually way more beautiful than me, so I feel some vile anger come up when I hear about them. Its not their fault, and at least I’m aware I’m being unfair. But that bias is there because men take it too far, all the time, and now I feel inferior/jealous of these powerhouse women.

Adding, I am a powerhouse of a woman, it’s dopey this happens. I didn’t link that together though, my bias, until just now.