In terms of stuff other people do like? I am so turned off by strap ons. I don’t disapprove, do what you want, just not with me or where I can see it.

Disapprove of anything truly coercive with anyone not into it - it’s possible to find someone into what you want, probably no matter what you want there is someone for you. As someone else on here said “make swingers into friends, don’t try to turn friends into swingers.” If you are into something unusual make it a primary filter.