Is quite nice for an isolated dick pic, lol. Also you do look perfect size btw. But isolated pictures of genitals not my thing.

Absolutely clear minded, stone sober sex is my favorite, I’ve never really enjoyed it as much while drunk or on any drugs except for one time coming down from LSD had an amazing time but I think that was an outlier.

Generally speaking I prefer to feel everything, and I feel it better when starting out clear of mind. And awake, though again, one exception - one time my ex caught me at exactly the right level of sleepiness, I felt like all the inessential layers of personality had been peeled back and it was amazing, relaxed but so intense.

I don’t feel qualified to speak on behalf of womanhood, but would say don’t worry much about being erect, we are looking at the whole body, and just look at it yourself, do you like it? Like if it was a picture of someone else.

Also if you have someone who likes the way you look, let them take pictures, it makes a difference.

Ah. Yeah I am cold when sleeping, not sweaty. But that makes sense. We wash sheets on Fridays and they do not look dirty by then, not worried about being cleaner than that.

In order of preference

BDSM stories (M/f, either perspective but M perspective best)

Other erotica, heterosexual or bisexual ok but like some straight action in there

BDSM still images (M/f)

Artsy nudes for drawing practice, especially male nudes not erect

Fit chicks (inspirational)

Amateur couples where the guy is as hot as the lady

Some of the gay man stuff, particularly D/s or any power imbalance like that.

The fuck? We shower before getting into bed. Makes mornings easier and keeps the bed nicer and I sleep better. They are getting into bed dirty?

None of the ones I worried about. I only wear clothes to bed if I know there is something happening really early (like if I have to take someone to the airport at 4:00) and want to be able to roll out of bed and go. The kids know not to open the door, I have 3 different robes for different temperatures, and husband has shorts ready to jump into in case of emergency - he is more of an early bird than me.

The only thing that really bothers me is dreams. If I am dreaming I’m not sure who is in the bed with me and will panic and put on a shirt before even quite waking up enough to realize I’m with my husband!

What I worried about was the fucking palmetto bugs getting on me (they are outside bugs but get in sometimes in the rainy season and they are my phobia) but the insect apocalypse seems to have reduced their population precipitously, which is terrifying of course but not in the way I had feared. And nothing so urgent and requiring me to be clothed has happened that I would not have time to throw on clothes and flip flops to handle it.

Overall, sleeping naked with my husband is the best.

Is she getting off? I think it’s normal, this happens to my guy (we are your age - ETA: we are both in good shape, and you look like you are too, I don’t think it’s a health thing). If YOU are ok with it and she is getting off, it’s not a problem, you can consider it edging and fuck again later, that’s what we do. Evening is for me, morning for him.

Also - he does sometimes take half a Cialis, if she likes PIV consider it - so hard he feels bigger inside me, it’s great.

The only time it’s a drag is when he really wants to cum at night, it does seem to take forever (though I do get to cum kind of a lot when this happens, I get so exhausted).

So I guess my suggestion, since you sleep together, is just go to sleep when she’s done and take advantage of the morning when you have a better chance of getting off, let that be for you.

The heck? You think lesbians aren’t having satisfying sex? That they’d be more satisfied with a man? Or that the only reason someone would leave a relationship is for better sex? I don’t understand this at all.

If this is flipped, I’d be somewhat more accepting of my guy leaving me because he decides he’s gay (or decides to accept it) if it’s a sex related breakup. But I don’t think most break-ups are primarily sex related at all.

For every person making thousands, there are thousands of people making pennies, I don’t think it’s worth it. Hustling is such a drag, and to do that as your main source of income very dangerous.

No, I don’t think it’s looked down upon here, there are a lot of commercial accounts, for better or worse I’m not sure, but promoting seems to be allowed.

As a side job it might make sense but I’d strongly suggest (as a mom to lots of kids) finding a trade you can enjoy, if you don’t want to do university. Electrician, barber, welder, mechanic - something skilled will bring in more money with less stress, and you are at a perfect age to start. Even working your way up at Whole Foods or Costco or some other good grocery, there are more jobs than you might think.

Not while he is in me, no, it’s more don’t stop, please more, or please cum in me, depending. But before, sure, sometimes, like if we are just playing with each other and my mind gets stuck on something not sexy I will usually pause to talk

Sapiosexuals are wholesome as fuck, it’s so cool to get turned on by someone’s wit and knowledge.

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Oh, so more like you are asking how actualized are your kinks? I think that is a good question. I spent a stupid long time waiting for my sexuality to evolve and turn into what I considered the ‘real’ adult woman sexuality, which involved getting off on taking charge. Like, even though my very earliest sexual fantasies were about being forced (not even sexually, necessarily) and never about anything except that power play stuff, I really truly thought I ought not want it, that it was some sort of unfinished or lazy thing. One day had a revelation that if any of my friends had some kink I’d be so accepting of them, never ever would I think they needed to change, so tried to give myself the same consideration, and am much more in alignment now. So in the scale of acceptance, maybe 8 or so. But I do not agree that everyone ‘vanilla’ is repressing hidden depths of perversity. I think many, probably most people really aren’t. Even those with a healthy sex drive. And no way does everyone have the same levels of general need, it took me 40 years to find a guy who runs as hot as me, get it every day now for about 15 years :)

So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don’t care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it’s more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?

The 1-5 I’d put as:

1 is asexual, do not even feel desire at all.

2 the demisexual who can kinda enjoy it if you do but really are just doing it for someone else they wouldn’t bother for themselves.

3 the people who have to be in love to feel sexual desire, they can be ‘unlocked’, basically, it’s just part of love to them. May actually do more variety of stuff but only for someone else, really do not feel independent sexual desire but love and sex entwined.

4 I think of as the normal people who can enjoy sex as an activity, outside of a relationship just for physical pleasure but it doesn’t pull at them so hard, and they don’t want unusual stuff just sex. Probably don’t seek out sex specifically, but dates,

5 the normal people who are more adventurous, and who get frustrated sooner, have a more active sex drive and will seek out sex partners, will go outside their comfort zone if a partner suggests it. Sexually active normal people I don’t think of as kinky.

I just think probably a very large chunk of people just don’t prioritize sex or need anything very specific.

6. I’ve done and enjoyed stuff I think most people haven’t, and a slap is still faster than a kiss and none of my fantasies are about plain sex, but I enjoy plain sex every day, and counting down I think that:

10 is people who want something that will kill them or someone else.

9 is people who want something that would land them in jail, or literal fetishists who get off on something that doesn’t include what most of us think of as sex, and only that.

8 is people who need something other than plain sex or can enjoy things that most of us find too gross

7 is people who identify mostly as their kink but can enjoy sex without it

Which would leave me at 6. I think way more people are in the 1-5 group than the 6-10 group, it’s not an even distribution. If you are asking where I’d land in the general population of women, that would probably be a different answer.

I can’t say it’s common, and wouldn’t ever have considered asking some random good looking guy to join us, but straight guy MFM is probably more common than you think. When men on the internet talk about threesomes they seem to be thinking about 2 women, but I’ve only done the other kind and it seems like way more fun - I’m straight so nothing really exciting about adding another woman, but two guys? So many things you can do whether they are into each other or not.

I do think it’s more common for couples to approach women though, as I have been propositioned by couples and probably all women have.

Best vaginal penetration 10/10 - face to face angled so there is some stimulation of vulva too, that is the most physically pleasurable way to get off.

Best anal is just not hurting, maybe 5, not bad not great, it’s only good if the guy likes it, and isn’t too big - I had a partner hung long but not thick, it felt pretty good with him but:

Both? One guy in ass and one in vagina? So good. It does add to the pleasure in that situation, certainly. Like 11/10. But the one in the ass kind of still not the more active.

ETA: I also really like when guys prefer vaginal, like you do. Even if they like both, even if they are bi, if they get off easiest in the pussy and prefer it that is the hottest feeling.

MFM is two straight guys, one lady. That is fun. I am straight so yes, that means I have done straight threesomes. Have also done some with bi guys, but it’s not a lot different from the perspective of the lady, maybe slightly more relaxed.

FMF I don’t understand - I agree that is probably no fun unless the ladies are bi. But it’s entirely possible to have a good time with two straight guys.