My wife’s story isn’t too exciting. Her tio and tia were able to get visas in the early 80s and were both Doctors. After they received citizenship and established themselves in the United States, they started helping the rest of the family come over. My wife’s immediate family applied for visas in 95 and was approved in 99. They had a big support system of family already here and gained citizenship a few years later. Her story is one of the better/easier ones and she is very aware of that.

Without getting into too much personal stuff, she has heard multiple stories of one or two children (as young as 7) getting separated from the rest of their family for a month/months at detention centers. Some of them deal with the trauma better than others . It seems like the younger kids normalized it in their head, but it’s always weird for her when they ask about her immigration story, and how much easier it was for her.

Even Klasky Csupo demons look better than this.

Most people don’t. I really didn’t get the whole scope/big picture until my wife (who immigrated as a child and now works with immigrant families) explained the whole process and gave examples of things she’s seen at work and with people in the community. Last night we got dinner with my mom and she asked “OK where are we moving to?” to only get a lengthy conversation of how it’s works and how hard it is. It’s not as easy as buying a plane ticket, selling all your stuff or shipping things to where you are going and then picking up life as normal. I hope most people here realize that, but I felt like it needed to be said.

Ahhh yes, it is so easy to pick up and move to another country. Why didn’t anyone think of this earlier?

I brought it up with my family, my tech friends and coworkers and half the them just blankly stared at like I didn’t know what was happening. Both are important, one more than the other though.

That’s the difference from a good support tech and a bad one tbh. Bring able to gauge someone’s tech literacy and taking in all troubleshooting done before is literally the first thing you should do. So many escalations I’ve received just has “had user reboot, had them disconnect and reconnect to network. Checked and device has no pending updates, sending to L3.” in the notes. Half of the time a reboot really wouldn’t do anything, and they really just needed to be added to an AD group (most of my tickets last week). I’m just glad I’m shifting out of support and more into projects.

College health centers usually only hand them out to their students. Do you think people stop having sex after they graduate?

No but they can afford them with their easy-to-get high paying job due to graduating right? /s

Idk how they go missing, but we do know where they go.

No apologies needed, it’s been playing in my head once a week for the last few months

That’s how I am looking at it tbh. I just want the people I care about to all be in the same room, have a nice meal and not make a big deal. We just had a slumber party at my wife’s parents house with her siblings this weekend and those are always so fun. I don’t understand why there is the pressure to do it big when everyone knows I’m a person who likes smaller, intimate get togethers.

I feel like most of it is everyone knows I’m trying to get better from my codependency and saying it’s my day to do whatever I want, but what I want is simple.

I am fine with a dinner with my family and in-laws, thata always fun. I’m just feeling pressured by everyone invited asking me “Are you sure this is what you want? We can do something bigger since it’s your 30th.”.

Yes this is what I want. That’s why I asked

My plan is a nice restaurant I used to work at, invite my in-laws, mom’s side and Dad’s side and call it a day. That would be 13 people, but everyone is asking if that’s what I would really want.

Yes, that’s what I want and no, I won’t regret doing something this small.

My wife really pushed a bachelor party 2 years ago before we got married but respected that I didn’t want one/hated the idea of what it would have been. Now it’s just my family thinking I don’t want to make a hassle for my birthday. No, I don’t want any of this. If I could get a great dinner for free, a long weekend from work and just hang out at home that would be perfect.

I saw Cujo as a 6 year old and its still sitting with me 25 years later. Our house was always the summer hang out spot for my family since we had a pool, so my aunt and grandma would always go to blockbuster on Friday to get some movies. I got to rent Pokemon Stadium 2 and all I wanted to to was play the game.

I couldn’t play it until I watched a movie with the family. The adults decided we should watch cujo (the perfect film for kids aged 8, 6, 5 and 4 right?)

I still have weird memories of watching the movie, getting freaked out and burying my head in the couch to try and not see or hear anything. After the movie my grandma said I could go play my game, and I still associate the Golbat mini game with it since the dog got rabies from a bat.

So next time you want your grandkid to bond with you, don’t fucking scar them ok?

Why not both?

They should just market to the blackmail fetish community at this point.

Sometimes calls work out in your favor. I’ve been sending emails and messages to a guy for a few days with no response over his new device and remote desktop issues. When I finally reached out, he was having work done at his house and had to keep stepping away to talk to the construction workers. Got to stretch a 30 minute fix into half a day of billable hours.

I would much rather him just follow the instructions on the email, but it’s an early Friday for me.

Edit: got to finish up some project work while on hold and now my day is free after hitting my magical ticket hours for the day. Fuck this job lol

Final Crisis had some of this with Thought Robot superman. Iirc they included 3D glasses so you could see Superman reach out to you in our realm one he gained concession of us. Check out some other Grant Morrison works for trippy meta fiction (pls read Animal Man)

And the first thing he did in the 3D world was go to an erotic bakery. I always thought it was a dumb throwaway joke but after thinking about it, that would be a fun first experience in the 3D world

Sorry if my post was confusing, my grandpa is still kicking (just tore down a pool, half a deck and working on a gazebo using the wood from the deck now) but he was just updating his will. My grandma died during 2020 and he has slowly been giving me more and more access/responsibly to his pension, property and bank accounts. This weekend was when he finally signed it all to me.

Losing my grandma during lockdown was tough. I lived with her and my grandpa more than anyone else in my life and I feel like they made me the person I am today more than anyone else. It just sucks knowing these plans after losing one of them. My mom current lives with my grandpa, but they are at each other’s throats constantly. I know my grandparents could of done more for her, but I am in the same boat with both my parents but decided to move on and try to heal. Family events on that side are now just passive aggressive matches with me and my wife trying to divert to a different topic.

Again sorry for the feels dump.

That lady in the store story really sums stuff up. My grandpa never never open about his and my grandmas relationship but I am starting to hear more positive, happy stories after she’s gone. I heard all about their fun times in the 60s and 70s but hearing the small moment makes me understand their relationship more and why they stayed together for 53 years.

They need to stop. I’m seeing them in a month and still playing catch up over the last 2 years of releases