• MeowZedong@lemmygrad.ml
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    11 days ago

    I have friends who are mad at me and will probably avoid socializing with me because I said he wasn’t doing anything but wasting time and money if his speech isn’t followed up by anything actionable. My comments about him apparently are undermining activists too.

    That’s the second time I’ve hurt a friendship by criticizing a Democrat senator in the last year. Never mattered to them when it was Republicans I was criticizing.

    The US deserves everything coming to it.

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        11 days ago

        As much as I appreciate this response, sharing it won’t change anything with them. The two people this has affected are the two most steadfast liberals I’ve ever known. They are completely bought into the ideology and won’t consider any alternative. My questioning angers them because liberalism is a big part of their ego, so to criticize their beliefs is to criticize their person.

        I guess what bothers me more is that these are the boundaries that matter to them in a relationship. They don’t want discussion, they don’t want to understand others, they want unwavering adherence to their chosen ideology and will ostracize you if you don’t give them that.

        • RedWizard [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netOP
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          My questioning angers them because liberalism is a big part of their ego, so to criticize their beliefs is to criticize their person.

          I know this too. I had friends this year distance themselves from me for the same reason.

          I was told “don’t be a stranger” which is ironic because these people had only been a stranger to me for several years. It was always up to me to check in and be included, rarely the other way around.

          c’est la vie