dumb ( stupid ) : missing the sense in talk ( Sometimes get the sense when re-thought later )

I do most daily routines and has good relationship with known persons. But, the dumb feeling pulls me back ( eg: “not creating” new friends , not getting another job/getting out of comfort zone )

What do you “passively” do to overcome this ? Else , what are the active tasks you do?

  • flashgnash@lemm.ee
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    8 months ago

    Oh my god this would explain so much

    Often feel like I cycle between being an absolute fool and being sharp and on point, had never considered that might be tied to being anxious

    Feel like I could take over the world if I could control that

    I suppose this is what’s behind when people thrust a mic in someone’s face, ask them something simple like “name a woman” and they completely fail to answer?

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      7 months ago

      Absolutely, it’s hard to feel so held back because you know what you’re capable of when you’re calm and feeling safe, but not all hope is lost.

      Anxiety (fight or flight) happens when there is a real or perceived danger to self in some way. That could be physical safety, stress, lost of resources like time or money, and so on. You can find a full list of what may feel threatened on Maslow’s Hierarchy (or Pyramid) of Needs (linked below).

      The trick is, learning these triggers. They can be tricky because you’ve likely trained yourself to ignore them over the years by trying to push through the anxiety. You begin to train yourself to notice them again by focusing on feelings (as above–physical sensations). The practice of Mindfulness is the name of this discipline. Your body will warn you with some sort of physical feeling before you’re in full fight or flight. It can be tricky to learn this, but it’s a game changer once you get the hang of it.

      Freezing people up with questions: yes 100% they’re editing the video to show the people the social anxiety. Not very cash money of them.

      Maslow’s Hierarchy: https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html