gabaghoul [any]

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Cake day: August 19th, 2020

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  • I just wanted to come back and revisit this.

    Thanks for everyone who gave a response.

    Over the past weekend, KB visited our home. This was the first time B met our new dog.

    Our new dog is a good boy that we rescued from an abusive situation. He’s a Rottweiler. He’s big.

    Well, big boy growled at B when she was petting him, and she flipped her shit. During the shit flipping, I kinda shut down and went back to what I was previously doing until my partner demanded that I take control of our dog.

    I wasn’t thrilled about what he did, but I’ve grown to accept that some dogs don’t like some people. We’ve had other visitors that he growled at, and they brush it off as “he’s adjusting.” because we’ve only had him for <3 months. However, now I know that B went home and ranted to K about the occurrence.

    K contacted my partner the following day about B’s rant, and now my partner has been in shambles because they think we can no longer have visitors. My partner has since reviewed some studies that verify some dogs just don’t like certain people, and we’ve agreed to evaluate how we let the big boy meet new people.

    The thing that bugs me though is I’ve been to KB’s home several times and their 4 doodles bum rush me and bark and growl everytime, but I ignore it or joke, “y’all don’t mean that.” But at the end of it, I don’t take it personally or give in to their dogs. I’ve certainly never left in anguish to go home and rant about it. However, I’ve only met two dogs out of the 1000+ dogs I’ve encountered that caused me to develop real fear. Both of those dogs have attacked several friends with significant damage including both of their owners. I grew up with several large dogs throughout my childhood, so I understand that gives me an advantage when dealing with some dogs’ bullshit. This may be what separates myself and B, but I’m still frustrated with their reaction to the big boy vs my reaction to their big doodles.

    All in all, I’m trying not to be frustrated by any of it and ultimately respect my partner’s friendships. But, fuck! there’s a whole part of me that wants to punch down on B and be like “How’s that shit feel? Your real estate money don’t keep my boy from giving you the shit you deserve.”, but I won’t. I want to take the HiGh rOaD because they’re only a friend due to my relationship with my partner, and I love them. And I only feel this way because any of my real friends would have taken it and looked big boy in his eyes and said wtf is your problem, then pushed him away or told him to GTFO, “we’re not friends until you can learn to behave.” And that’s how I treated him when he growled at me during the first few days we brought him into our home. Now this fool won’t leave my shadow. He’s literally sitting beside me with admiration as I write this shit.

    Anyway, I don’t want to shit on people who have rational fears of dogs, but I’m terrified of the wrong person getting offended by our bubba and causing problems for us that don’t exist.

    Again… Thanks all y’all who gave some rational insight to my original gripe. Now, I’m just going to have to delineate whether this is a one off or does big boy have a legitimate judgement.