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Cake day: May 17th, 2025

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  • I talked to a guy online once about a similar set up - I’m honestly considering taking a furniture making class to make my dreams come true there. Or convincing one of my regulars to make one for me.

    Hard choking is something I’ve done - I got scared when my ex choked someone else unconscious on accident and almost killed them, so I’m a little reluctant to go for it now. It does feel so amazing though - the only time I’ve ever came from penetration was being strangled and beat on a fucking machine. I know that I would totally let a guy off me in the moment because it’s like nothing else 😅


  • Getting fucked strapped down to a guillotine (with a line of guys especially) or with a gun to my head.

    Snuff is really difficult for people to understand. I like being alive, but the idea that a guy could treat me as completely disposable is exhilarating. I’m fairly extreme on the masochism/submissive side of things, the challenge is always finding guys who are safe with those extreme kinks.

    I’ve got a regular I had a really great time with recently - put a belt around my neck before he walked in, let him talk about how far he could go (while not actually pulling hard - breath play is always dangerous…)

    Being passed around at a party and thrown into a dumpster afterwords is another of those “probably impossible” fantasies.


  • I did it for a while. It felt very good at the time, but it quickly escalated into something dangerous and abusive. Some of the most exciting and erotic experiences of my life - being a footstool, sleeping in a dog cage, wearing a permanently locked collar, having a contract, being on the verge of orgasm from just being made to mop floors and follow rules - but tied to an absolutely brutal “drop” when the whole thing was abruptly ended. Realizing that the person I served had always deeply hated me and was actually exploiting me was a hella of a mind fuck.

    It still deeply appeals to me, but the fallout when it ended was very difficult. Going from a few years of that mind state rapidly back to “normal” life was extraordinarily difficult, and there wasn’t really a “script” for getting my life back on track afterwards.





  • Most women would be more willing to have casual sex if it was safer, and women are just as horny as men. Gay hook up culture is a utopia straight people could have if a woman being “easy” didn’t put her in danger - physically, emotionally, or socially. Pregnancy (especially with fear of stealthing), stalking and damages to social reputation are huge concerns with women, and collectively in most cultures many men shoot themselves in the foot here.

    Orientation is fluid, and sometimes the people that you have sex with are not people you would want to be in relationships with. There are piles and piles of “straight men” who actively seek out sexual encounters with other men. Social stigma hampers men here to.

    Organized BDSM communities tend to get taken over by dangerous people. Frameworks and rules don’t override unhealthy dynamics.


  • I don’t understand domination or topping. Just doesn’t click for me. I had to top a few times when I did SW and I hated it.

    Submission is just so freeing. My fantasies are being in some form of slavery, which I did have for a little while. When it’s safe, I love some snuff/disposal talk. I have a therapist and don’t actually want to die lol, but it’s just such an intense and exciting fantasy. Having a contract where I am recognized as chattel just rockets me off to subspace.

    I’m not into orgasming at all with another person. If a guy gets really fixated on me cumming for him, it really makes it hard to stay in the mood.