Ah I understand what you were saying now, I wasn’t sure exactly and it reminded me of the “Agender Pronouns” thing, glad you didn’t mean it that way though.

There are other problems I’ve had with Hexbear, I’ve actually been threatened and harassed by several users on that platform, I’ve also gotten some bad vibes in a few communities there that didn’t really make me feel welcome, as a GNC person or as an Agender person. It’s hard to describe, it just didn’t quite feel right.

But yeah I do hope the user flairs get added to Lemmy at some point, it would be nice to have some of the helpful features from Reddit, like User flairs, and either post flairs or post tags (post tags are probably better since they can federate as hashtags).

Yeah the big issue with Hexbear’s way of doing it is that it’s kind of forced and can cause discomfort to people who don’t want to out themselves yet. I wasn’t aware they have undecided or any as options, I’ve never tried to sign up there and have little desire to considering among other things how isolated it is. Even so I don’t think their way of doing it is very good since it heavily limits the options people can use, and locks people out of using display names, which are extremely useful. I think a better solution would just be to increase the length of usernames and display names to accommodate users who might want to use pronouns.

Also just want to point out, it does annoy me a bit when people say Agender pronouns, since Agender people don’t have a universal set of pronouns. We all have very widely varied preferences and experiences among us. I don’t blame you for that by the way, it’s a common misconception about Agender and Nonbinary people.

I’m not a fan of forced pronoun badges as an Agender person. Allowing people to have pronoun badges is good but only if it is optional. When it isn’t it creates a dilemma where a person has to choose between outing themself, or lying if they don’t want to out themselves.

As it is though, their implementation of it simply uses (or rather commandeers) the display-name feature Lemmy has, so in a way we already do have an optional implementation of it for people who want it. It’s just not mandated. The way they did it was to replace display names with Pronoun tags and have them be mandatory.

I will share that dragonfucker has significantly harassed me and sent death threats toward my way, it was through an alt account so I guess one could say that it could’ve not been drag, but the circumstances surrounding it were suspicious enough that I’m almost certain that this alt was the same person/dragon as dragonfucker. The community that was created to harass and target me !fuckdraconicneo@discuss.online along with the alt is gone but since I was pinged on every account and I have email notifications enabled I still do have all the messages I received, as well as screenshots of DMs from the user account, none of them are pretty.

I’m not a fan of gatekeeping people’s identities and I REALLY don’t think we should do that. I do think we should understand the kind of person drag is though, and acknowledge that these types of things like the death threats, the harassment, and encouragement of suicide have no place here, in a safe space no less.

I think drag is talking about using the API or network tab in browser to create bans when a person hasn’t posted in a community before, as far as I know there’s no way to create fake modlog entries, other than doctoring screenshots of the modlog (something you’ll be busted on very quickly) or possibly by screwing with the database as an admin (something that you’ll also be busted on since it won’t federate).

Comment removals can’t be faked or screwed with unless doctored, because the comments removed must actually exist to appear in the log.

My issues with dragonfucker are to do with the fact that drag decided to make an alt account and proceed to spam me with insults, porn, and even death threats. Creating a community to harass me publicly and pinging me on every fediverse account I owned.

I know I couldn’t actually prove it was drag who did it, Lemmy has awful tools to identify users, and drag denies all accountability, but the circumstances of it were so suspicious that I’d be willing to bet money that dragonfucker was the person behind it, or someone close with drag.

I’m not going to lie when I got the ping under the post asking for admins to help track me down so I could be tortured and killed I did get very scared that someone would show up at my home and I did actually contact the police about it. Though ultimately nothing came of the investigation.

It makes me very sad and also afraid that no one is addressing the real issues, instead choosing to complain about pronouns and debate the validity of other people’s genders. Which as an Agender person also makes me feel sad and also kind of unsafe.

I think this page gives some good info on Neopronouns for those who might not be entirely in the know about them.

I’m in agreement with this, but I think people should complain about the trolling behavior and the abusive behavior, and not about the pronouns, because the trolling and abusive behavior is the real problem. Not people using different pronouns or having non-standard identities.

Thank you, I’ll definitely give these a read, they look interesting.

It really is, I thought I was one of the only people to think that Agender might be really common but just hidden because many people who don’t feel gender can blend in as cis or not even know they’re Agender. Obviously we’ll probably never really know for sure but I do think it’s likely that many of the people out there who don’t feel gender or don’t think about gender are very likely Agender.

I also saw a meme a while back that said animals are Agender because they don’t give so much thought to gender the way humans do.

I never saw that article before but I do like it, I have noticed that a lot of people who I know that identify as cisgender don’t seem to have an internal sense of gender or pay much mind to gender but I didn’t think anyone else thought that too. It’s nice to see my idea isn’t as unpopular as I initially thought.

That MAP shit people regurgitate to try and defend or excuse pedophilia isn’t a valid sexuality, pedophilia is a heinous and disgusting crime. Pedophiles aren’t marginalized people, they are dangerous people who need to be locked up for the safety of others.

It’s not, it’s still happening on the other instances, here’s a different one on Lemmy.ml which isn’t working, but is working here.

I think whatever that change they did was a bad idea, an example of trying to fix what isn’t broken.

I saw it happening on a few posts on 196 as well too, plus it seems to work just fine on Lemmy versions prior to 0.19.6, so I think Lemmy is the problem: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/31505839

The problem not happening on servers pre-0.19.6: https://lemmy.world/post/21870740

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