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  • The problem with age gaps isn’t age; it’s experience and power. Three years is still a big percentage of your life right now. In ten years time, three years will not be as significant a part of your life.

    Think about how different you expect to be as a person in three years. Can you even realistically imagine who you will be?

    As far as relationships - they work out when the people in them have common goals, and they fail- no matter how much love is in there- when the people involved are going in different directions in life. Part of your problem at your age is that the direction of your like is likely to change drastically over the coming years in ways you cannot anticipate.













  • That’s such a weird order of operations. Like, your medical conditions are simultaneously such a big part of your life, and yet also so deeply personal that it feels like they should not be part of the initial conversation, which is supposed to be shallow and light, not immediately heavy duty.

    I think perhaps there are other more important considerations than mere trans-ness, like “do they have the same overall life goals that I have” and “are they taking care of their mind and body and fitness”. But transness may inform those aspects. If a significant focus of their life is on their own gender, I might struggle with that. If they’re already at a point where they have dealt with it and moved on to other things, then it might work. If they have comorbid issues beyond transness, like depression and anxiety, that can be a deal breaker unless they are managing themselves and putting in the work.


  • AnotherUsername@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlPaywalls
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    1 month ago

    On the other hand, good fences make good neighbors, and paywalls are a way of drawing healthy boundaries. If I write a book I am not donating that book to the world free of charge to use as they please and train an AI to replace me. I would like to be paid for my work somehow. If I and a team of researchers and engineers and finance folks and HR folks and janitors work together to build a vaccine distribution system, we don’t get that for free.

    Paywalls are a useful mechanism for ensuring that people aren’t abusing you and your work.

    Problem isn’t paywalls. It’s that how you do things matters. If you hoard all the food and paywall it at high prices so you can buy fancy cars, that’s not ok. If you set aside food for a local community supper so that kids can’t use it for their trebuchet practice, that’s sensible.