From my own experience, social anxiety. Its not like I can’t even talk to girls. Shit, I probably get along with some better than I do dudes, but I always hesitate to take any action that might have elevated stakes. And I’ve worked hard on convincing my self not to think this way.
I agree with this. I’ve known lots of really attractive guys with a lot going for them that have terrible dating lives because they never make the first move
While dudes that are terrible beings and not very attractive get way more dates because they’re always hitting on women
I get hit on at the cash register so much and never notice until one of my coworkers points it out to me, partly I think because of the fact that I don’t necessarily not reciprocate - I enjoy talking to people to pass the day and being friendly and making folks laugh - but flirting is certainly not something I even understand on a basic level because I’m also socially anxious and self conscious.
While dudes that are terrible beings and not very attractive get way more dates because they’re always hitting on women
I see this often and it’s amusing because the terrible guys are usually the same ones who complain about women not liking “nice guys”, while the shy ones will usually be split 80/20 between “I guess this is just life” and “WOMEN HATE NICE GUYS” despite never talking to any women
From my own experience, social anxiety. Its not like I can’t even talk to girls. Shit, I probably get along with some better than I do dudes, but I always hesitate to take any action that might have elevated stakes. And I’ve worked hard on convincing my self not to think this way.
I agree with this. I’ve known lots of really attractive guys with a lot going for them that have terrible dating lives because they never make the first move
While dudes that are terrible beings and not very attractive get way more dates because they’re always hitting on women
I get hit on at the cash register so much and never notice until one of my coworkers points it out to me, partly I think because of the fact that I don’t necessarily not reciprocate - I enjoy talking to people to pass the day and being friendly and making folks laugh - but flirting is certainly not something I even understand on a basic level because I’m also socially anxious and self conscious.
I see this often and it’s amusing because the terrible guys are usually the same ones who complain about women not liking “nice guys”, while the shy ones will usually be split 80/20 between “I guess this is just life” and “WOMEN HATE NICE GUYS” despite never talking to any women