• Ace0fBlades@lemmy.world
    154·
    1 year ago

    I’m straight and attracted to women. That means whatever I fuck is a women regardless of their genitals.

    (The Jonny Bravo approach)

    • Breakyfix@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      106·
      1 year ago

      congratulations! you have discovered that sexuality is not as simple as “luv me boiz” and/or “luv me girlz” :D

    • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      19·
      1 year ago

      No. These are males (gender) presenting as feminine (presentation). Often this presentation breaks - will they have a female voice? Attitude and personality?

      And if you were attracted to them… Yes, you’re attracted to a man*

      But being gay or bisexual or any sexuality is a spectrum. You can be bisexual, if you choose to use that label, and attracted almost entirely to women, and then the rare man. Or be attracted to all genders but still only choose to have sex with certain genders.

      I just came across someone who said they were attracted to a picture of a bear (hair man). And someone said “hey, you’re not straight” and they replied: “Im only attracted to this man, here, online, and I’m not having sex with anyone. So I’d rather claim to be straight.”

      In this case I think sexuality is a process. Maybe they will end up accepting their attraction and acting on it, maybe they won’t. And either fork in the road would lead to a great life.

      • Holzkohlen@feddit.de
        1·
        1 year ago

        Is that like the consensus among scholars on the internet? Cause I have been thinking about it the same way as that other person: I am attracted to feminine traits, so I am straight.
        Not that I mind at all if I’m bi or not, I am just trying to find myself so to speak. The thing for me is that if I just think of myself as bi, it feels like the easy answer. Like using bi as an umbrella term or like that meme “that’s right in goes in the square hole”. Like if you don’t fit anywhere else you fall back to being bi? Feels like a bit of a cop out answer to me.
        But then maybe I really am bi. This thing is hard man.

        • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          1·
          1 year ago

          No its not the consensus. Thats just what I’m thinking. Hey the labels are there to help you. Don’t tire yourself out over it, take the simple answer and then have fun.

    • LordAmplifier@pawb.socialEnglish
      21·
      1 year ago

      There is this person I follow on social media for perfectly SFW reasons (that’s a lie), and at first, I thought, “femboy hot,” but then I learnt that she’s a woman, and although she’s still hot, it’s a different kind of hot. Still following her, though.

    • Oka@lemmy.mlEnglish
      16·
      1 year ago

      I’m Ace. Imagine my confusion when femboys were appealing to look at but not sexually desirable for me. (Cis Male)

    • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      16·
      1 year ago

      When I see these uber cute images I just kinda imagine a real human in my mind and they come out looking my age (mid twenties). As a fan of people playing with their gender and presentation and posting pictures of it, though, the youngest looking person Ive seen is 35… So all of those 20 year olds better keep taking care of themselves.

        • Khotetsu@lib.lgbtEnglish
          5·
          1 year ago

          I totally understand this, because we often attribute features that are either androgynous or culturally considered feminine (but especially androgynous features) with prepubescence. So you’ve got the rounded faces and lack of secondary sex characteristics that we would associate with older people, plus fashion that could easily be considered “younger,” and despite probably being intended to be 20 or so, they look much younger.

          As somebody who’s got that scruffy white Jesus look going on but doesn’t have a square jawline and often wears hoodies, I’ve more than once been mistaken for a high school/college student - even by high school students no less - despite being in my 30s. Being hit on by college kids almost 10 years younger than you is an awkward experience I would not wish on anyone. As is having your mom be mistaken for your grandmother.

    • runner_g@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      3·
      1 year ago

      I’m guessing you have some microbiology training?

      I want to coin the term facultative bisexual. You prefer the opposite gender but in their absence you are comfortable with someone of your gender.

    • DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe
      3·
      1 year ago

      If only there was some kind of like, sexuality spectrum, with a label for people who might be into the same gender, or at least people on the boundary lines, some of the time