• NONE@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    When I say “I hate small talk” I actually mean “please Shut up, Im really anxious and I don’t know what to respond to you other that nodding and «Thats crazy»”

      • CosmicTurtle0 [he/him]@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        10 months ago

        Small talk is the human equivalent to the initialization/handshake phase of the TCP protocol.

        It establishes the connection, introduces the speakers, validates the presence of the other, and then allows data transmission to take place.

        Unlike computers, we humans require years of practice to get it correct because there isn’t one set standard.

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        10 months ago

        I hate small talk, because you (a stranger) do not interest me and I don’t care about trying to connect with you. I have neither the need nor the energy to try and am very comfortable just being in silence.

        I small talk with people that I interact on a daily basis and need to communicate with (coworkers). Even then it heavily depends on how much energy I have.

        I small talk with my friends and SO because I want to connect. So I put effort in to be present in the conversations.

        It’s not right to lump small talk with a cashier, cab driver or a haircutter together with small talk with a friend or a partner.

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            10 months ago

            Listen man, we (as individuals) can’t care for or help everybody. Connect with the ones you care about and don’t harm everyone else. The fact that I don’t care about you, doesn’t mean we can’t coexist or even help each other.

            Looking form another angle, why not wanting to socialize in stranger small talk is bad? Why I am expected to accommodate? Why can’t we just enjoy the silence in this hypothetical situation?

            I see this sentiment more often than not. Me, as the less social party, is expected to move out of my comfort zone, but the person trying get me into a conversation isn’t expected do the same and just keep to themselves.

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        10 months ago

        Pal you actually sounds like someone who really HATES small talk, Jesus…