I’ve been living with depression since I was 14. It felt inescapable, but for a couple of years, I was doing really well. I stopped going to therapy, I was able to handle bad things, anxiety wasn’t tearing me apart, I had goals I wanted to achieve. Then in the last two years of college, my depression came back worse than ever. Trying to get better isn’t even on the table, right now I’m just trying to want to get better.
But for a few years, I was able to think to myself that I was happy, and that depression was a thing of the past. For the life of me, I can’t remember why. I feel like I’m doomed to be stuck in a cycle of falling in and out of depression for years at a time at best.
But has anyone actually come out of depression, for real? Is it possible to say that you dealt with your depression and you are genuinely happy, or at least want to be happy, and you think you will be that way for the rest of your life? Because I genuinely don’t see how people are supposed to be happy.
Also did we used to have a mental health comm?
Yes, I actually have, depression and anxiety are not an inherent trait like Autism or ADHD, they are linked to our circumstances, environment and perspectives of ourselves and our outlook on the world’s conditions.
Sometimes circumstances change and I may get depressed for a few months, but it is not a looming and endless depression like it was before.
Stabilizing your financial life and having good friends are for me the starting point to cure yourself, and also seeing a psychiatrist helps, but I wouldn’t recommend going on hard antidepressants as they don’t do much to get yourself out of your depressive situation.
For me, having communist China rise in the world stage made my outlook on the world’s future much better, the Chinese don’t share the western doomer culture of the world ending and are very optimistic of their future.
And in a personal level, getting to know myself more, building better relationships and earning some money did the trick.
I didn’t even started doing sports or going to the gym, which can boost your recovery, if I did those things, I’d be much better off.
Taking ADHD medications also helped, as before I was unable to “do things” and being able to do things reduces my anxiety and depression greatly.
I used to be horribly depressed on a daily basis and getting through my teens and twenties was so god damn hard. Transitioning helped with some of it, but I will still hella depressed.
It like, got better over time, mostly as my life stabilized. Now that I have a stable relationship and career and the bad parts of my family aren’t in my life anymore, I’ll go years between depressive episodes, and when I do get them there is less general negativity in my life exacerbating it.
I’ll probably have waves of depression all my life, but they are way more manageable now that my life is more managed too.
In my case, I’ve come to accept it like it’s something that comes and goes. I’ll catch a depressive episode in the early stages, or foresee triggers and prepare accordingly: ring my psychiatrist, tell friends and family I might go through a rough patch soon, and to check in on me, and not commit to anything other than the bare minimum to survive, so if I can’t make it because of depression I won’t feel as guilty.
Realizing I was queer/trans/neurodivergent, and accepting myself for it instead of feeling like a freak who doesn’t fit in anywhere has really helped, too.
18 years of non stop depression and crippling anxiety kinda just stopped on a specific day. It was in the middle of an argument with a shitty friend who I let push my buttons for like 10 years and I thought “wtf am I doing?”. My constant grovelling for accpetance and love turned into a more “fuck you” attitude and then I cut off family and friends who made my life hell.
Work currently sucks and I’ve got a lot of things on my mind but I am yet to hit even a fraction of the lows I used to get. It took 18 years of beating myself up to get to this point which during that time I saw no way out.
This is specific to me ofc but idk if it helps at all
I didn’t so much overcome it as it just kinda stopped
when it does stop for me it feels entirely random sometimes
I can’t say if my solution will work for you, because my depression had its roots in gender dysphoria and only vanished when I started hormone therapy.
If it’s okay if like to hear your experience anyway. Also I have plenty of gender dysphoria to go around, though hormone therapy doesnt appeal to me