• boogetyboo@aussie.zone
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      8 months ago

      … I’m a woman. I’ve been raped, assaulted, groped, stalked, kerb-crawled, cat-called and intimidated. The majority of my female friends can tick off at least one of the above. As can their friends. And their mothers. And their sisters.

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        8 months ago

        I am sure and I am trully sorry that you’ve been through it all! I’d be scared if I were you too. It doesn’t make it normal though.

        If so many of your remediate network have been through the same, you must be living in a terrible place. The majority of females that I have discussed similar issues with have been based in either northern European countries or Mediterranean. What you describe would be extremes to mostly all the women that i have talked with

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          8 months ago

          We’re not females, mate, we’re women. And it’s not isolated to any country or socio-economic group.

          These aren’t extremes. They’re the lived existence of most women. Like I said, that’s a list that most women can identify an instance of that they’ve experienced.

          Your word choice and tone make me think that you aren’t a person any woman readily or candidly confides in.

          Rape, assault, groping, what have you - that happens everywhere. It’s not just a bleak story of post-USSR landscapes and people being carted into trucks; it’s ordinary people. Pele with families, with white collar jobs. Suburbs and night clubs. Country roads and city alleys.

          I’m not a broken shell of a person. I’m a woman in my late 30s who has experienced trauma at the hands of men I trusted, and from complete strangers. I’m a high income earner, I’m privileged. But every woman I know has experienced something on that list.

          Listen to women. Wherever they are, whatever they look like. Stop telling us. We don’t need to be told anything.

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            8 months ago

            I apologise for using the word female instead of woman. In my language they are the same word.

            In regards to the rest I believe that we will never agree so ill just leave it at that.

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              8 months ago

              You’ll never agree that women have an experience you’ve not experienced?

              It’s not a matter of opinion

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          8 months ago

          You’re missing the point that it isn’t living in a terrible place. It’s living in any place. It’s the normal, baseline experience of most women. The Mediterranean is one of the worst.

          Women don’t talk to you about it because it’s normal to them.