this is a pretty short piece from about a decade ago, which leads with:

Somebody calls autism a tragedy. Somebody kills an autistic person. Somebody doesn’t see how these two events are connected. I try to explain. I try harder. It happens again and again and again and somebody ‘splains it away.

and i’m sure you can already see where this is going and why it’s going that way; it’s a good piece, if heavy.