• CommunistCuddlefish [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    5 months ago

    The “generational trauma” thing is very real, I talk with people who grew up where I am and whose parents did too and they don’t know shit about what’s like coming from a 3rd or 2nd world background. Which is not a condemnation of them, but sometimes it gets gross, like a partner made some comment about wishing their family’s history was as cool as mine because it produced a very interesting person (me), and I got kind of upset because it’s a history of suffering due to the west’s colonial actions, and between intergenerational trauma and firsthand trauma I and my siblings are utter wrecks of humans in ways that we wouldn’t have been had we been white westerners. Sure there’d be other problems, but I would trade for those problems.

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      5 months ago

      I was lucky to have the privilige to have no material wants, but the cultural and psychological shocks of Soviet history I did still feel.

      Those scars are not cool and quirky, I personally don’t know if I would get rid of them, they are part of me, of what defines me.
      But I would swap my parents NGL (though a lot of the issues they have are personal, IDK in how large a part due to their history).

      It’s still hard to fathom that my (technically step-) grandpa was born during the war, played in collapsed ruins as a child and still remembers having had to eat acorns or rather bread made of acorn flour to get by (despite his family being relatively well off for the times); I can’t even properly process that…

      Edit: I’m also sorry for your personal history having been plagued by colonialism, I can’t even imagine what that baggage must be like, sorry… :/