Like, seriously, I have had a few people talk about how my fiancé wasn’t conventionally attractive, but he’s attractive to me :)

Plus, he’s good to me, and I don’t date for looks. I’ve had conventionally attractive exes too who have been horrible people, so…

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    I’m pretty sure that it boils down to successful procreation genetics. As in, the more attractive you are the bigger the selection of mates you have access to. It’s been happening for as long as life has existed here.

    No doubt this has across history been heavily distorted by culture, art and religion and in more recent times by fashion, marketing, advertising and media.

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      Please don’t believe literally anything you read that references procreation genetics. It turns out, humans are complicated, wars happen, some people value people for their feet more than their faces… there’s literally no data that’s concrete enough to be valuable enough, and anyone telling you otherwise is doing so either because they’re lying to themselves, to you, or selling something.

      Source: having read quite a lot of it over my many years on this earth, and watching it be destroyed time and again. Hell, I could write a paper arguing that people typically choose mates based on their appearance, their intelligence, their height, their income, their geography, their history of family trauma, their interests, their smell… And find documentation of various dubiousness to support each argument.

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        1. I’ve been here for almost six decades.
        2. I don’t know what the topic of “procreation genetics” means outside this thread where I was attempting to answer OP’s question and put those two words in sequence to explain myself.
        3. I think that life has an imperative to procreate and has done so since it started.
        4. Life, as we currently know it, appears to revolve around genetics.
        5. I’m not sure what you’re talking about.
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      Two gay men can’t make a da baby, and the gays can be very into their looks and physical attraction.

      Speaking from experience as a gay man

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        I encourage them to continue trying. For science.

        Eta: please don’t tell me about it unless you succeed. I was just trying to be supportive.

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        I’m guessing that being gay doesn’t turn off the part that’s looking for a beautiful mate.