It’s because there are, like many things, 80% of us who get what the intentions were, while there is 20 percent who abuse it or mishandle it. It’s not the a majority are asses though, just the crazies get more airtime, and then it becomes an echo chamber.
It’s a lot like a funeral really. You will want to shoot them a text, or tag them on social media, and you can’t or just get sad when you do. And if it’s someone you really, truly cared for, it will take a long while. And that’s okay. I seriously lost who I thought was the one I was supposed to be with, did a couple short realtionships and some one night stands (all optional) and then met my wife three years after that big break up. But you just keep keeping on