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  • Yes, that is a thing I also experienced, but hopefully that will change again also for you.

    E.g. for me, with our kids being out of the worst by now I have found the time and energy again to pursue new hobbies, as well as resurrecting some old ones, like PC gaming, which I had abandoned for nearly twenty years because “growing up”.



  • That’s just the process of getting older, the “pasts” you lived at some point become more numerous than your present state.

    No reason to worry.

    The things you are doing now have grown on that rich field of experience and maybe don’t seem so ( massively nostalgia-tinged) spectacular as what you did in the past, but they are valid nonetheless.






  • Yes, especially wars also tend to seriously disturb family planning.

    My grandparents all were around 30 on my fathers side and even older on my mothers side when they became parents.
    Reason for that: WWII happened…

    Before and after the wars, numbers were significantly different. My mother was nineteen when I was born in the mid 70s. But that also was around the time when that started to change in our country, triggered by the more widespread availability of contraceptives and an increase of women’s education level.









  • As Gen-X, I can confirm that 30 is far more traumatic than 40.

    I totally agree.

    When turning 40, I had much to much going on (family stuff really taking up speed, buying own flat,…) that I didn’t give a shit.

    30 on the other hand, with me still without a long-term partnership and just continuing living my old student bachelor’s life, felt like a huge thing, triggering profound eleventh-hour-panic.

    I think that the dates have shifted as typical family foundation has moved from the late teens or early twenties to around 30.
    This also means that 50 might be the new 40 (A fact that I can confirm by now), marking a new phase in life as 40 maybe did in former times.



  • Most of the Millenials I know have even already the scary 50 approaching from behind.

    But that’s some kind of observation bias, as I am GenX and interestingly know almost no people born between 1990 and 2000.

    But I know a bunch of GenZ again who currently look like deer with big, wide open eyes at the approaching headlights of the “30” truck, which imho is much worse than the 40…