• remotelove@lemmy.ca
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    Without going into much detail about my experiences, it turns out this scenario stemmed from them being bipolar. Anecdotally, when they got diagnosed and treated, this behavior stopped and they were able to express frustration without going full manic. (I don’t fully understand bipolar’isms that well myself, btw.)

    It’s OK for someone to be frustrated. It’s OK for someone to get mad at you on occasion. It is not OK to be yelled at for hours over something absolutely trivial.

    Don’t jump to any conclusions if you are in a similar situation. The person may actually be abusive!

    • Leonixster@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      Bipolar II here (yeah turns out Bipolar was so good they made a second one)

      Personally it doesn’t sound like they went fully manic (else you or them would’ve been in greater danger), but instead it sounds like a mood swing. When unmedicated, it is too easy for the smallest of emotion to trigger a meltdown. A slightly irritating thing means uncontrollable anger, a slightly sad or pitiful thing means uncontrollable depression (emotion) and crying, etc.

      I’ve had days where I feel completely hopeless and filled with despair, crying and giving up on life, only to realize I’ve forgotten to take my pills in a couple of days, and be so much better to the point that it feels like it was another person expressing that desperation a couple of hours later. It’s honestly very interesting (if you set aside the worrying aspects) to see how a brain can change so abruptly

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      For me it was my ex. Gaslit the shit out of everyone. When I tried talking about it with friends the ol’ “that doesn’t sound like her”. Felt so alone. Escaped her abuse eventually. Hope you’re safe 🙏

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        I know it was 9 hours ago but I’ve had multiple exs in the past that Gaslit the fuck out of me and everyone else. My own family thought for the longest time when I would bring up the problems™ I would get the similar “that doesn’t sound like something she would do” :/ the past few years I’ve lucked into a very healthy polycule tho.

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        Hey, can I get a fist bump for a hat trick? 😅🥲😅

        On a brighter note, through hard work in therapy, I’ve recently come to realize that all but one of my past relationships have been with partners resembling my mother in behavior/abuse. All the while, I’ve been keen to avoid the same from dad-like sources, but blind to raptor hiding in the shadows. 🤦🏼‍♂️🤷🏼‍♂️

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    Can’t let the misbehaving little shit hear what’s what in public, it wouldn’t be a great look

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      That was a vision Rey had of herself if she went to the Dark Side of the Force. It made for a cool moment… in the trailer.

      Alternatively, they look healthy, so maybe it’s just British dental care not fixating on useless aesthetics? Did you ever consider that maybe they’re just Daisy Ridley‘s real teeth? Hmmmmm?